What I like in a man
 

Kind of self explanatory however, in here I have chosen to bring in towards the end a detailed feel of a few things I like - some are kind of repeated but with explanation (some of this towards the bottom is words used on a website but with how it has the meaning to what I want.)

I like a man to have a soft and gentle hand.

I like to have nice soft kisses for no reason.

I like my man to be able to communicate with me in every way possible.

I like him to hold my door open for me though it's not a must

I like to him to pamper me with a foot massage or backrub for no reason.

I like it when he respects me in everyway. (If you wouldn’t dare talk to your mother or grandmother like that – don’t you even think about doing it to me)

I love it when he holds my hand in public.

I love it when he gives trust in me as time goes on.

I love it when he takes me out to eat

I love to be taken out to movies

I like it when he can listen to me if I’m sad or hurt and he doesn't make fun of me.

I like it when he asks me to cuddle on the couch with him.

I like it when he asks me to sit and relax while he does the house work for the day.

I like it when he trusts me to take care of the bills and doesn't question me if I only pay part of it, knowing I have a reason for doing it that way if it's needed to be done that way.

I like it when he asks me if I would like to do something or if there is something I would like to do and gives me a chance to tell him what I might like.

I like it when he can be someone that is not jealous over me.

I love a man that doesn’t put me down for my ideas and thoughts but tries to have understanding even if it’s not how he likes it.

I love it when he tells me he loves me many times a day.

I like it when he wants to go and do things with me including going shopping.

I like it when I want to do something that he's willing to go with me even if it's something he really doesn't want to do but he makes the best out of it and has a great time with me.

I want to feel a deep passion for the person I’m with, so communication is there, I want to be able to listen and talk about feelings, no matter if it’s a deep issue or just out of fun stuff. I want to make sure that there isn’t anything we can’t talk about.

I love some kind of sense of humor – spontaneous joking to practical fun jokes that isn’t just cutting over the line to hurt others.

I love to have pet names and to know that I’m the only one that it’s used for, as no other female will get that type of attention. I love to be able to sit on the bed and be told how much I’m loved and be able to stroke your hair and tell you how sexy you are to me.

I want you to be strong enough that you can tell me anything but yet you are not afraid to show your emotions if your sad or upset (not meaning crying at a drop of a hat at everything) I mean that if I hurt you or say something wrong, I want you to take me aside where no one else can hear and tell me I said something insensitive. I don’t expect everything to be peachy.

I love someone that has a creative side and can express.  I love doing the same as well. I love craft type work though I may do a large variety of crafts and not just be singled on 1 thing, I have my talents and would like to share them with you.

Love when someone is kind but not overly kind to where they can’t turn someone or something down when it comes to the need to say no. I love when he is kind to me and is gentle to my needs.

I don’t need someone that is extensively smart but it’s nice to be able to have someone that you can have a normal on going conversation with that knows things and is educated in the world around him.

I haven’t the cleanest home in the world but it’s nice to have someone that is organized, even if it’s in a neat stack and know how to find something. Not have to go buy something though you know you have 1 you just can’t find it in all that mess.

I'd like to have someone that is excited to try new things with me, to take adventures to places because I’m petrified of airplanes; I want to travel in other ways. Make new memories.

I'd like to have someone that is going to be patient with me as I have a few disabilities. As I get to know you, you will find these out. If something gets rather frustrating in daily activities, I want you to be able to deal with them with me, not have to face them alone. It will all be ok; we can work at them together.

I want to be able to work together at being parents to all the kids and you if you like, can be a grandpa to a new baby – yeah I know something to think hard about. There are new things we have to learn together if you’re willing but step parents are going to be something new for you I’m sure. Dating is one thing, a life together is another.

I want to make sure that that we can do better then to just tolerate each other, I want to appreciate each other in everything we do together.

If there is a problem, we need to solve it rapidly as possible and make sure that we learn what NOT TO DO AGAIN. Not sure if it’s possible for us to never fight but if it comes up, I would hope we can talk about things and fix them before it becomes a problem. Example, if you don’t like something done a certain way, don’t snap at me and tell me don’t do that, talk to me and say, well I have done it this way and it works, shall I show you? I may have another way of doing the same thing that maybe might work just as well or easier on you. Doesn’t mean either of us is right or wrong, but it’s fixing an issue before it becomes an issue.

I’m not looking for a pin up model. I can see you on a 12 month calendar and not get sick of looking at you ever. I’m fully and completely attracted to you, stay that way. I must be attracted to my man.

I love you to be hygiene clean, not looking for perfect but it’s nice to smell good for your partner.

I’m so huge in the part that I’m affectionate. I’m so touchy feely, I can’t keep my hands off my mate. I love to kiss, stroke hair, hold hands, touch legs (yes 3rd leg too), I love to hug and cuddle, I don’t mind public signs of affection either, I think it’s great. I love to be able to show the “I love you’s” instead of just words. I’m not much into the accepting part as it’s hard for me to take the “I love you’s” I have been hurt so many times, so this may take some getting use to is what I mean. In past was told I love you and then cheated on.

I’m sure you’re a hard worker at everything you do but I don’t want a bum. I love someone that can also work hard in a relationship where I’m not only one working to make it come together. (So far, I see no major issues)

I don’t need someone that is high on energy all the time and has to be on the move, there is slowness and I work better on that. I have had problems in my past where it’s harder for me to do some things and I’m slower but still enjoy them. So high energy isn’t needed with me.

I love someone that is very emotionally generous with me, someone that can be very affectionate with me, gives me more then enough attention but can understand when something goes bad and doesn’t put me down because of it.

He gives lots of love and understanding in many ways.

I love someone that can talk about things with and shares my understandings about the world to just general things that may be important to me.

I would hope you believe in yourself no matter how good or bad things get, don’t put yourself down, mistakes happen. Live by them and learn, show me how you like things too so I can help you along your way.

I am pretty sure you won’t really need help in anything but I would like it if I can dabble into helping you out on things. I don’t expect us to be joined at the hip but it would be nice for both of us to get to know each others world. I don’t want you to have to do everything alone.

I don’t mind that your curious about my world as I’m curious about your world, I want us to be able to ask questions and be interested in everything each other does and try new things to interact together.

Please remain loyal to me; I will always do that to you. You will never have to wonder if I’m out hunting, you are all I want and will ever need. I have been cheated on and hurt, not sure if you ever have but it’s beyond painful. I want to be able to count on you and depend on you in every way possible.

I know that along the way there is shocking surprises, I hope that we can work together at them even if it’s not a good surprise.

I know you will have times that you need your own space, I haven’t a problem with that, but before shooing me out the door, please make sure I know what’s going on and why you need that space as I will always want to be by your side in most everything we do together… if you will allow it.

I am a family oriented person, I love to play the X-box 360 with the kids, I love playing Play Station with them and computer games to board games. I enjoy a few movies right in a row at home and on the weekends I spend every moment I can with my grandson… I fought hard to get that and now I take it every moment I can get it – one day you will have that when your son is old enough. I want my family life to stay similar to what it is now but more active. I would like to go out more then I do now. As a family I like to go to movies, parks, drives and hiking. We enjoy new things and exploring. Maybe it’s something we can do together.

I want to be able to share many things with you as I’m sure you will with me. 

I don’t expect any type of dress code with you, I want you to feel natural but it might be fun to dress just alike sometimes – kind of feel like a couple that likes to dress alike.

I don’t know how you feel about helping others out in life but it’s nice to volunteer time to causes, whether it’s someone that had a fire in their house and needs a place to stay for a few days to a dog needing help cause it got hit by a car, but I like to help others out.

I love to stay in and catch a movie and quiet evenings together

I love someone that is fully responsible

I would love to have a partner who is able to forget about money and focus on the important parts of life.

Sexuality - I would love to have someone who is reserved and traditional in their sexual needs. But who is mature and experienced as a potential sexual partner and is able to express himself freely. Willing to try new things out as time goes on but isn't overly wild - not into whips and chains. Someone who is willing to explore our sexual desires with passion and understanding.

I would like someone that enjoys most of these or all of them:

• Playing with my kids

• walks on the ocean

• walks hand in hand (even in the darn rain as you won't melt)

• Cuddling

• candle light dinners

• go to the movies

• window shopping

• work on cars

• computers and home maintenance

• mountain climbing

• go on drives

• horseback riding

• playing cards

• throwing leafs on each other in the fall or snow on each other in the winter

• Going to garage sales

• antique hunting

• playing in a bubble bath

• going out to dinner with you

• going to the mall just to look around

• Watching NASCAR's or Ice skating

• photography

• hiking

• camping

• boating

• the general outdoors

• wood working

• romantic getaways

• decorating a house that we buy together and making it nice to live in

• Massaging your mussels

• Gardening

• crafts

Gosh..... Did I leave anything out...lol