If you get through this then maybe there is a chance. I like to lay my cards out on the table, though most men can't handle it, also I find most men are afraid of commitment. I’m willing to wait my whole life for this (not for one man if he asks me to wait...that I won't do) and it feels like that is the direction I’m headed.

For starters, I’m looking for a long term relationship. I don't mind making friends but, I’m looking for a life time commitment. I’m marriage minded though at this time, MARRIAGE scares me.

I’m not a model and it seems that most men are all looking for a blond "Barbie", that just isn't me. I don't have big perky boobs and I have a bit more weight on me then Barbie does, my teeth are not perfect, I’m getting partials to have full set of teeth.

I love to do many things as you will be able to tell from what you will see in here. I am a loving person and want the same. I feel like I’m the one that all the nice guys pass by, but I’m not sure why they don't stop here.

I’m a very affectionate, loving; I think I’m kind of pretty. I’m stylish, a loyal person, and love to communicate. I’m Likable, sensible, casual, flexible, energetic, unique, calm, but yet hard headed. Hard-working, persistent, soft-spoken when not angry....lol, consistent, intelligent, charming (Tinkerbelle dust did that), unpredictable, realistic, fun-loving, lively, conservative type of person but not all at once or I'd go dizzy. I can be stubborn when I think I’m right and I’m not afraid to say so when pushed. I love to joke around and do sweet things for my special someone. I’m like a surprise around every corner.

I feel I need to lose a few pounds, but I’m told I can turn heads; you be the judge.

What do I like to do? I like to play with my kids, walks at the ocean, go for walks hand in hand, cuddling, candle light dinners, go to the movies, window shop, and work on cars, computers and home maintenance. Mountain climbing, go for drives, horseback riding, playing cards, going to garage sales, antique hunting and video games.

I hope distance isn't a factor, I’m looking in the basic places: USA, Australia, Netherlands, France, Germany, Canada, UK, Switzerland, Denmark, Greece, Norway, Russia, Turkey, Finland, Luxembourg, Ireland, Poland, Sweden, Ukraine, New Zealand and Victoria but not every place else is out.

I’m very straight forward and don't mess around when it comes to serious issues. I’m the kind that will play practical jokes on you or joke with you about something and I do like to ruffle your feathers sometimes too ....oh man I was thinking about my birds...sorry. I like to just go someplace of the spur of the moment. 

I do like to meet but I’m a bit of a fast mover but I’m scared to go fast when I see something nice however the sky's the limits (no slugs, don't like to have to slow down I’m getting too damn old for this dating crap even though I know it takes time to get to know each other). Though I will not give you my life in 30 seconds, you will get a pretty damn good idea who I am here.

I’m also the type to want to move fast if I really feel that I want someone bad (not in the sexual manner). I really do want a relationship but I don't want to get hurt. If you are just out to get a piece of ass, go away! If you like to play games, get lost! If you want someone to drink with on a regular basis, go to a bar! If you want sex everyday, buy a hooker! I won't be in competition for a relationship, as I don't need a man in my life, however it would be nice to have someone special. 

I know how to do most automotive work and things around the house (Jane of all traits and a master of all that I do), so I don't need a man there but if you are willing to take a challenge, here I am. I’m a one man lady and I want to be treated as such.

If everything works out between us I would like to be able to move into a home that is near me as I really want to move, however I want to have a home together and would like to be joint in everything we do together. I would hope you would be willing to relocate. (I will not relocate to another state nor move to a MAJOR City.)

I’m not looking for a cash cow and I’m not one that wants a man to shower me with gifts, I don't need someone to spend money on me for me to be happy however it is really nice to get items/gifts.

I would like you to be financially stable so I need not have to support you. (I can explain if you want me to - NO BUMS - there I explained). I’m not a "gold digger" and I don't like to be looked at as such but I think everyone in their right (maybe left) minds love money. Money isn't everything but it does take money to make things happen and all in all it does pay rent, (house payment) and gets food in your tummy so you don't turn into that furry thing.....oh yeah, a GRIZZLY BEAR! Let’s not forget that money is a fun thing when you want to buy that ticket to the season opener or go to see a movie and how about TP to wipe your BUTT! So money is a lovable thing but don't get mad if I want to have someone that has money. (I'll only give you an allowance......lol, don't take that seriously now.) I have never been the type to look at someone and want them because they have money, I look at their personality and love them for who they are and not what's in their pants and not what's in their bank account. I have been offered nice cars and gold jewelry, though it is really nice and they refuse to take some things back as I feel not correct to accept them, I do fine with someone with or without a lot of money.

I’m a very strong person and I generally rub people wrong when I first start talking to them. I’m bold and very blunt and I speak my mind with that person right away. I’m not one to hold back my feelings. I’m a big smart ass and tend to be serious a lot. I have been working on my tact as i'm not afraid to tell a lady if she asks how she looks in a dress that she looks nasty and would look better in something else.

I don't like someone that doesn't know how to communicate and I don't tend to stay in contact with that person for long if they don't talk to me. Communication goes both ways.

I’m not one that likes to cook. But I do what I have to.

• I don't like fighting or arguing. If you put me in the spot where it's a fight or you piss me off, I might let you have it and tell you how I feel in full so back off. Don’t lie to me or call me a liar - I don't lie.

• Don't ever call me a BITCH as that will forever be the end of us and I don't care how far in a relationship we are... it will be over for good - try me and find out. (Don’t even joke about that)

• I’m not overly a clean house person but I don't like massive clutter. I’m the kind of person that likes to have things organized.

• I’m someone that likes to have control of my surroundings. Before you freak out over that comment I'd like to explain: I have to drive wherever i am going so i know i can leave at any time, i have to control the bills so i know that they are being paid - if it's in your name, i will not interfere however if my name is involved, i will control it, i will never go into debt again. this is the type of control i speak of, not controlling a person.

• I like to know who is around me at all times and I’m very aware of what's going on around me. (This includes I don't need a backseat driver....lol)
• I don't like to be in any situation that I can't get out of if I don't want to be there. (this includes I drive everyplace or can drive away if I don't want to be there and not depend on waiting for someone to take me home or have to beg for him to get me out of there and make a big ass scene) 
• I don't like to be in confined areas. 
• I have to have my automobile in case I’m in a place that I want to just leave. 
• I don't like to be told what to do and who I can and can't talk to. 
• In a relationship if I don't have say in something I will tend to get upset. 
• When it comes to bills, I tend to want to make sure that if I’m in the home, that the bills will be paid and food is taken care of by me. 
• I tend to take the "wife" role. (I may want to get married and live my life with one man for the rest of my life.)
• I want to be my own self and not have the man control me as it won't work.

• I find that most men want the lady to control the money, take care of the bills and general shopping, take care of the running around, and with this kind of control is something I prefer.

The reasons behind all this is in past,

• I have been told who I can talk to
• Where I can go
• How much money I can spend
• When I have to do his laundry, make food on time
• Not allowed to go home
• not allowed to pay bills that are in my name and trusting that he will pay me back if I just let him borrow my credit card or borrow something in acct dept wise - allowing over 10k in debt
• not allowed to buy anything for me and if I did, told I had to take it back - if I didn't do this the way he wanted me to do it, I would get beat to the bloody pulp.

Because of all this and not being able to trust him to stay loyal to me, trust him when he says he's at work when he's f*cking some chick - I learned to stop acting like a slave and start taking control over myself. I’m sick of ending up in the hospital and courtrooms because some fricken jack ass wants to control me - NO MORE - this is why I have total control now.

I’m someone that has a hard time at trusting men for the simple fact that I don't like to be lied to nor do I like someone pushing themselves on me. I have been told many things that a lady would love to believe but because I have had put my trust into that man and believed him (many men); my trust in what anyone says is something that just isn't given out anymore. If you want to get to know me, please let me go at my own pace or I will not stick around. Trust is EARNED not GIVEN away. I've been hurt very traumatically by men and I must go at my own pace.

***PUPPY LOVE***

• I don't chew on slippers, I buy slippers if needed.
• I don't bite, but I might nibble on your neck.
• I don't bury bones in the back yard, though I might take your T-bone steak and cut it up for you.
• I love to cuddle on the couch, but I don't shed so you won't have to clean up after me.
• You are welcome to comb my hair if you'd like, however beware that I might attack you and want to get passionate with you.
• I wouldn't mind you give me a bath and drying me off. 

I’m a mother of 3 children and very much dedicated to them. I have a grandson now also.

I’m a hermit and don't like to be around people however I don't mind going places as long as I’m not to be in one place too long. 

I hate being compared to other relationships that men have had as I’m my own person (I’m not your ex-wife, I’m not the ex girlfriend, I’m not the best friend you ever had that died and isn’t around anymore – I’m me, not her).

I’m kind of like ERIN BROCKOVICH as in the "I don't give a f*ck" what I got to do to get what I want in life but at the same time I’m a very caring person and respect others feelings but I’m BLUNT and TO THE POINT.

I’m not the "normal" female, I don't mind getting dirty and I hold my own to anyone. I’m not afraid to stand up for myself, my partner or my kids and friends and I don't back down easy. And if I feel threatened or pushed in where I don't want to emotionally or mentally, I will clam up and you won't get information out of me.

I’m a Tomboy type (I love doing guy things) and I’m not the kind that is interested in wearing a dress. You can get me in a dress if you want to but it better be for more then just looking at me in one....lol

I’m an observer ....I don't generally ask a lot of questions, I normally find all of my answers by watching my surroundings and just listening to others. Trust me, if I have questions, you will know about them right away. I don't like to keep things bottled up.

I’m not one to repeat myself so please try to remember what I tell you silly man.....lol

I never give any identifying information to anyone I meet on the computer until I feel comfortable. Please don't ask for my phone number or address and what I do for a living (it's legal). You can call me Sammy, it's not Sam or short for Samantha and it's not my birth given name either. You will not get my birth given name until I trust everything about you or feel that you are the right person to know. There are many that don't know my true name that have known me 5+ years now. Please don't bother asking, when I’m ready, you will know.

People may not like who I am or the things I do but that is fine with me as if I worried about what everyone thought about me, I'd go nuts! I’m not saying that I don't care about others feelings but I only have one life and in general I am the type to say "who the hell cares". I’m not out to be rude but I have one life and kids. My kids and I are all I have to worry about and a loved one that comes into my life, no one else. I moved out of my mom's for a reason.

I’m a very smart person but sometimes things just don't come out in words with me the right way. I don't like to be told I don't know what I’m talking about. If I don't know something, I will tell you that I’m not sure about that issue but I will never tell you that I know something if I have no clue about that issue. I am at time slow to catch on and this is do to an accident I had with a guy putting my head through a wall and made a silhouette out of it. I don't remember much of my past during that time frame and I have small issues here and there as of still today but I work on them daily. If I don't know something, teach me. Don't make a fool out of me. If you know something, don't test me to see how much I really know as that will make me very upset as I’m no longer in school, so don't try to be a teacher and test me.

I may not act like you, I may not do things the way you would do them and you might have lived the “good life”, this doesn’t mean my way of life is wrong. I have lived a catastrophic life up until lately and yes it has made me overly cautious, but please don’t put me down if I don’t live up to your standards. I do my best to not enter this into any relationship and rather good at keeping past relationship crap out. It’s just me and trusting people that you will have to let me go slow on, I have to learn trust anymore – sorry.

I’m easy going and down to earth. I like to have control of things and situations going on around me. I hate to wait for something to get done by others that I can do and get done now. I’m a go-for-it kind of person, if you want something I go for it until you get it. I hate to give up on anything or anyone. I love to joke around and have a sarcastic way of doing so but in a fun way most of the time.