I'm Sammy, glad to see you here. I want to thank you for coming here. 

Here you will get to know a bit about me.

This may not answer all your questions but I hope it will give a good start. I'm not one that generally likes to answer 20 questions about me so I have put this together with many hours of time to help you to better understand me.

In here you will find subjects, in these subjects I hope to answer some of your questions.

here is the subjects below:

WHEN I WAS BORN

KIDS

WHERE I LIVE

MY FAVORITE FOODS

ANIMALS

THINGS I COLLECT

PLACES I LIKE TO GO

THINGS I LIKE TO DO

MOVIES

BOOKS

FAVORITE COLORS

ONLINE

JOBS

PEOPLE

JEALOUSY

HOBBIES

THINGS THAT BUG ME OR I OUTRIGHT HATE RELATIONSHIPS

RELIGION

FRIENDS

MARRIAGE

ONE NIGHT STANDS/SEX

LOVE

TRUST

ABUSE

ALCOHOL, CIGARETTES & DRUGS

FEMALES

ME IN GENERAL

MY DREAMS

WHEN I WAS BORN

I was born 11-19-66, I was a single birth but I have a younger brother by 3 years whom is last known to be military bound.

KIDS

I have 3 kids. They are all pretty well behaved. It's time for me to stop having anymore kids and start to have an adult life. My children are my life and I would do just about anything for them.

My oldest daughter is a straight "A" student and is in Honor classes and she is also in college, she was born in Dec.93... I would say she's doing pretty damn good.

My youngest daughter is following the same path, she's doing quiet awesome too. She was born in Sept.95 - she has come a long way in her little life and I couldn't be more proud of her. she's had a life struggle with health issues.

I have a son who was born in Mar.87 - he's gone down the wrong path in life however he's also a father to my grandson but isn't in the babies life - I wish him the best and hope he turns his life around before it's too late.

My little grandson was born in July 07 - the light of my life, I have him on the weekends and we always have a full weekend.

I don't want anymore kids and I won't be pushed into having anymore. I understand that if you are a parent they come with and i'm willing to parent them, however, I raised 3 kids of my own and am about ready to start doing things I like to do but I might be willing to take on the challenge of well behaved children. Step parenting isn’t easy but I don’t turn away someone just because they have kids.

I feel that 3 kids is more then enough for me to deal with and I’m not about to bore anymore kids.....no more period. NO EXCEPTIONS!

WHERE I LIVE

I live with my kids in a small place. I have plans to move soon as I can to a larger place. I live near a town called Silverdale in Washington State. My town is known as a "military" town. We have many military bases here, P.S.N.S., Bangor, Keyport, plus several more - its navy related.

MY FAVORITE FOODS

I love Chinese food, steak, pasta dishes, drumsticks...

I like to eat most fruits: grapes, strawberries, oranges, apples, bananas, kiwi, and pears.

I’m not much into veggies but I like fresh corn on the cob, fresh peas, and lettuce.

I don't like tomatoes really well but I eat them, like to have avocados but mainly right out of the shell.

I enjoy fruit salads and veggie salads.

I eat cereal mainly for breakfast, however I do enjoy a hot breakfast at times, but not fond of eggs.

I love dark chocolate, one of my favorites is peanut butter cups, M&M's with peanuts and red vines. I like almonds and burnt peanuts. 

ANIMALS

I have no pets. my girls have 1 cat each. I have raised and use to breed cats, hamsters, birds and have been around dogs most of my life. I have had fish as well but I am not one to like to raise animals anymore.

I'd have to say that I don't want to have to care for pets anymore so I can be freer to be able to leave and not have to worry about having someone to care for the animals while I’m gone.

THINGS I COLLECT

I collect a lot of different things: coins, tins, turtles, nick-knacks that I find or special people make or give me throughout the years, movies, military things, pez candy containers. I’m very sentimental; I like to keep things that people get me though half the time I can't recall where it came from.

PLACES I LIKE TO GO

Out to a nice restaurant, movies, to the park, hiking in the mountains, drives to no place in particular.

THINGS I LIKE TO DO

• Watch a good movie

• Watch reality TV

• Take the kids to the park

• Hike mountains

• Drive my car to the unknown

• Play on my computer

• Build websites

• Cuddle when I have someone to do it with

• Same thing with kissing

• Play cards, board games and video games

MOVIES

I like these types: military, funny, tear-jerkers and based on a true story types (more about this in another area)

BOOKS

Well I have read "a boy called hopeless" & "Shiloh". I like true stories and romance. I don't read many stories at this time. It puts me to sleep to read.

FAVORITE COLORS

Purple, orange and blues

ONLINE

I love to be online; I build websites and love to help people learn the internet and their computers. This is where I spend a lot of my time. If I’m not on the computer I’m with my kids, playing video games on Xbox 360 or play-station 2, cleaning the house, paying bills or shopping.

I have many pen pals and yes a lot of them are men but I don't talk to all of them all the time and there is no one that I am in neither a relationship with nor trying to get into one with. I do not flirt with anyone on my buddy list. I will keep them if they choose to want to stay pen pals with me when I find someone to spend the rest of my life with. I think making pen pal friends is something very nice. The only way I will refuse to talk to them is

1: if for some reason they keep crossing the line and it's just getting out of hand.

I will not ask you to stop talking to anyone unless I feel that they are crossing the line or I find you flirting with anyone, but then that turns into a whole new subject and we will be over, so make sure I'm the only one you flirt with.

I play an online game and have many little buddies on my list and on that game I talk to a lot.

JOBS

I own my own businesses that are and are not on the computer. I choose not to talk about my businesses with anyone, however I will let you know what they are but please respect me by not asking details about them. I will not discuss how much I make as far as income or how I have time for any of them and how often I do them. I don’t consider being rich using them.

• Webmaster

• Web Page Building and Designer

• Theme Page Builder and Designer

• Computer Tech

• IT (Internet Tech.)

• Computer Repair

• Computer Retail Store Owner

• Teacher (teach basic computer skills, how to build websites, work with Java, Html and so on.)

• College Paper Write-Up

• Pet Massage

• Home Decor Designer

• Garden Decor Designer

• Landscaper

• Auto Rebuild and Repair and Auto Body Specialist

• Crafts

• Wood Worker and Designer

• Basic Construction

• Finance Organizer

I also have under my belt many other things that I have done and very proud of... this includes but not limited to working on the USS Stennis (a military ship).

There are more but this gives you some idea.

PEOPLE

I’m a people person in a way. I love to watch people if I’m in a public place, like the mall I will watch people walking by. If I’m in a car, I like to just look in cars to see what people do while they are driving. I like to watch how people interact with others or how they do things from their jobs to shopping or just daily things.

I don't like being in a crowd of people and I don't like to go to parties nor do I like to have company at my home much as I’m very much a quiet and very private person. I’m someone that generally doesn't like to be around people. I've been called a hermit and that is a title that doesn't bother me.

I don't like to be around people that drink in any amount but as long as I’m not in a relationship with that person, it doesn't bother me so much.

I never have really liked to be around kids, not to say I don't like kids but most that I ever run into are basically "RUG RATS" per say "CURTAIN CLIMBERS". I don't like kids that rough house, hit their parents, cuss at their parents, tell the parents what to do, don't follow some kind of schedule. I have kids of my own and my child may not be angels by any means but I can say that I have a son that Graduated, a older daughter that is an Honor Student and still getting an A - B average who is basically considered a straight A student and in college at a young age and my youngest is on her way to a bright future as well. They have rarely been disrespectful to me and never to anyone that they have come across in their lives. They are kids, I expect kids to get mouthy but it's how it's dealt with that I mind.

JEALOUSY

I’m not a jealous person by any means, however if you go behind my back and talk to a lady whom you flirt with online, friend or coworker even, no matter the level of flirting, to me it’s not right.

Everyone is a natural flirt but there is a time to say, enough is enough. If you’re not willing to stop the flirting and you enjoy it, then you will not need me. You want to flirt, do it with me. Otherwise if you don’t give me a reason to attack every female you come in contact with and your just a general nice guy, well then I guess you haven’t a thing to worry about, now do you?

HOBBIES

My hobbies range in the way of making crafts, working on cars and computers and doing special things with the kids as well as shooting pool with my son, playing video games and going for drives as I love to drive. If I had the money to just get in the car and go, I would love to just go. We love to go 4X4ing as a family but i have recently traded my SUV in for a new car).

I’m a big time "spur of the moment" type of person and for no reason get up in the morning on a Saturday and just go to the mountains for the day, go to the ocean for the day, take a day trip in the car and have no clue where I will end up and we end up half way in another state just to go out for lunch. I would love to just up and go to the movies or out to dinner or even go dancing, or surprise you with a nice candle lit dinner on your birthday.

THINGS THAT BUG ME OR I OUTRIGHT HATE (also more about this later)

• Body order

• Dirty bodies

• Really bad penmanship

• Bad breath

• Someone that says they will be on time, do something at a certain time and doesn't show up or doesn't do as they said they would.

• Cussing all the time

• Flirting from my man to another lady when he's in a relationship with me or dating me

• Keeping the toilet seat up...yes that means you!

• Doing something after I have said "no" to it

• Repeating yourself over and over again

• Bugging me for something after I said I can't or I'll get to it

• Doing something without letting me in on it

• Someone that can't clean up after themselves

• Liars

• Dishonest people

• Men that don't seem to understand that their head is on their shoulders and not in their pants.

• Drug addicts

• Smokers and alcohol users

• Sex addicts

• Perverts

• Gold Diggers

• Females that try to come in on my relationship

• Money Pinchers

• Can't stand when you tell someone you are not willing to share something and they keep bugging you about it.

• I’m not broken, stop trying to fix me

• My past is my past for a reason; stop asking me about it as it doesn't concern you. Nail in them coffins for a reason, they will stay there.

• I hate church and refuse to go.

• I hate when people assume anything, if you have a question about something ....ASK ME....don't assume anything cause more then not you will be the fool at the end.

• I hate spinach. (Downright YUCK!)

• I hate liars. (any size lie is no good however there is one exception to this rule, if your planning a nice surprise and must tell a white lie so they don't find out then that can be considered ok, however don't use this as an excuse to get out of things.)

• I hate cheaters (if you ever think for 1 second that cheating is ok, then you never truly loved me and I promise you there will never be forgiveness)

• I hate drugs (never happen, I have too much to lose and I won't lose it because of you doing drugs)

• I hate rapists, porn, child molesters (no explanation needed)

• I hate alcohol (been way too abused with alcohol and I don't like it, it stinks and makes you do stupid crap.... not needed in a relationship.... if your single, that's one thing but when you have a partner to think about, that's another.)

• I hate pickles (love sweet pickles)

• I hate control freaks (what I mean by this is not controlling general things... I mean by controlling everyone I have as friends for me to visit or talk to on the phone, where I can go who I can see and how much money I can spend. I’m not going to cheat on you, I don't believe in it. I’m not that type of person. I’m not going to run up a phone bill or flirt with anyone on the phone nor have phone sex. I am not foolish with money, I know what needs to be paid and I do what's right. Don’t treat me like I can't do things on my own.

• I hate over jealousy (kind of just said this above)

• I hate when I tell someone that they will not get information out of me and keep prying.

   

RELATIONSHIPS

In a relationship, when I’m with you, I want to be recognized, be loved, cherished and devoted to. I want you to treat me as if you plan to get married to me and allow me to do the duties a wife would do. I’m looking for a husband (my best friend, my prince charming, my knight and shinning armor, my king).

It bothers me more then anything when in a relationship, I am treated as a kid that can't pay the bills, doesn't know how to drive, and can’t keep up with household duties and shopping. I have back problems that slow me down from time to time but I’m very smart, very high IQ, very caring about how others feel, and I know how to learn fast. I can do things that would stun you, so give me the benefit of the doubt and let me be a part of you and not treat me as if I was born yesterday.

RELIGION

I believe in a Higher Power of some kind like as in good ole' Mother Nature, but I don't believe in god or the "powers" of such. I don't go to church and I’m not looking for that way of life and don't want it ever and I won't change my mind.

However if that is something you believe in that is fine but please don't push it on me. Please don't attempt to either.

I don't do the "no sex before marriage." If I'm in love with you, you damn right, I will make love to you.

Please No Bible thumping.

You are welcome to go to church or believe in whatever it is that is your beliefs. That doesn't damper me none.

I don't believe in the devil or hell either so let’s not go there.

I’m Atheist or Agnostic (haven't decided). 

FRIENDS

I don't have many "FRIENDS", only because I choose not to. Friends to me are people that are there through thick and thin and beyond anything else will help you no matter what if they can. At this time I have 1 (Susan or also known as "granny") as I don't trust many people

• Friends don't put you down

• They don't take your partner away from you

• They will never go out of their way to hurt you

• They never lie to you

• Friends can be trusted 100%

I do know a few people but I like to stay to myself. I consider these people acquaintances, acquaintances you can't trust 100% and don't know a lot about them and if you do know quite a bit about them, you just don't want to get really close to them and you don't want them to know your business personal or otherwise.

I’m a hermit, I don't go out much and unless my kids are with me, I never really go anyplace, Generally only because I don't have anyone to go out with. Not that I’m on lonely side, just prefer to stay in - except in the summer, love to get out.

I have met people, at scouts and the mall or at the general store. I am generally shy and won't go out of my way to say hello to a man even if I’m just in "ahhh" over him. I’m scared to get turned down. I’m generally shy until I get comfortable with someone then I loosen up.

Generally the people I know would help you if needed and like to have a good laugh.

MARRIAGE

I have never been married before. I have been engaged a few times but for reasons that I would rather not get into they are over with....obviously.

I have thought about the marriage thing and until I find just the right person, I have no interest in marriage. It's going to take someone special for me to do anything like that. This is not to say that I would leave nor would I cheat on my partner. I don't have a problem getting engaged but it will take a lot for me to trust you and know you enough to get there.

There are too many divorced people out there and I don't want to be one of them.

ONE NIGHT STANDS/SEX

I’m not the kind of person to have one night stands and I don't need sex to make me happy.

I try to make my man happy out of bed as well as in bed, but if there is no real love and friendship then there is no true relationship, so there wouldn’t be a need for sex.

I see the words sex, making love, screwing and the F words all as different meanings. I will only "make love" when I’m in love with the special someone. I refuse to do any of the others.

I do like to go fast when I am happy with someone and don't like the night/day to end.

I will not however put myself in bed with someone that I am truly not in love with.

I must respect myself and my kids and just having sex isn't doing that.

I’m not interested in Cyber-sex, one night stands, flings or whatever you want to call it as I have no interest in it. until I'm in a relationship I also prefer not to talk about sexual issues of any type.

I’m looking to make love to the man I truly fall in love with and only him, no one else.

Also to make note as far as in a relationship - yes I will make love to you but honestly I don't like having sex at all, personally I have to take medicine after having sex because it's very painful for me and has landed me in the hospital. I have been raped and so I don't like it forced. I also don't get off like other females so I get nothing out of it, I don't enjoy it and no it's not having the "right guy" no one can fix it, so don't think you will be some miracle person, it's not going to happen. I rather have it once in a while as I'm not one that prefers it daily, nor do I have the time.

LOVE

I’m super strict on the words I LOVE YOU, I can’t and won’t tell anyone I love them if I don’t and I will only tell you I love you if I do, and you will know my meaning by it. I’m not willing to give out the I LOVE YOU if I just don't feel it

I love many people in friendship or family ways and I do tell them that but it's rare for me to tell anyone that.

TRUST

What takes years to build but seconds to break?...... TRUST

I want real love not just someone that can say all the "right" words to see how far he can go. I want to be chased for once and pampered...I have forgotten how it feels. So tag....you’re it!

On that note, I have had so many bad things happen to me that the people I have trusted have just let me down. Trust a teacher not to hurt you and one does in this day and age... though I’m lucky there, can't recall getting hurt by teachers. But others I have been, trust my mother and she hurt me, trust my ex boyfriends they cheat on me to abusing me, trust babysitter and he hurt me, trust legal people and they lie and that is hurting me, all trust is broken every time I give that trust. so don't expect trust from me to you to come easy - this will take years.

I have done everything I can to “give it now” to a new person. To give it slowly as get to know someone, and the slow way is only way for me to give it.

I don't like people telling me to trust something to get done as it won't get done, trusting someone to take care of bills for example put me over 10k in debt. I trust no one right away, you want it, and I go on my own speed and will not be put down for my own human reaction.

Trust a boyfriend to never hurt you and that got messed up as I was near death on one, more about that below.

Trust for me doesn't come easy and i may never trust you fully, please expect that.

ABUSE

I've been badly abused & I blame my past for that but I don't allow it to rule me and though it effects me I don't want you to  feel sorry for me, I don't like pitty parties though understanding is a nice thing.

These issues below are the only time I will talk about them, I refuse to give details, it's another one of the "my past is in the past" and will stay there. This only gives you an idea on why I’m so cautious about relationship and take my own time to get to know someone. I might be ecstatic over you but I have to be careful this never happens again as my kids are now a victim to a point.

I have been abused as a kid and as an adult. I don't carry on abuse to my kids, I learned years before I had kids that it is one thing I would never do to my kids as I didn't like it and I know first hand how it felt.

As an adult, I have been in very abusive relationships and I promised myself that I would never let it happen again, when I was in one of my last serious relationship over 10 years ago.

I have been in relationships since that were verbally abusive and physically too but as soon as the abuse started, I tried to fix it and when I knew it wasn't going to change, I got out.

I will avoid fighting by leaving the situation. If I can’t make you understand my point, I won’t stay to listen to anyone put me down. I have had enough and yes this means you. Treat me right and I will do the same to you.

Not long ago I was in a relationship with a guy that was my 1st love in school. after 20 years, I ran into him again and tried a relationship, he nearly ran me over with his car and has had a legal charge on him for abusing me.

One relationship just before that about 1 year before I was in another relationship where the guy kicked me across a travel trailer, bit me and slapped me... one day he came home and stole all my money in my savings and took off, got drunk, came back and started threatening my kids... it was totally unexpected and I had to get out of that. Because of these last 2, I’m extremely gun shy as they involved my kids.

On the internet I met someone, been talking to him for several years as a “friend”, got to know him (so I thought) only to find out he wasn’t whom he claimed to be.

I have been stalked by several guys on the internet and have been in the line of fire (not via a gun) as to where he was hunting me down no matter what it took and came all of 1 block from me hunting me down.

been on a few dating sites as I won't mention them but I met several there that just seem to want money from you, get married to get you to get them out of their country, claim to be mugged and get you to send them help, lie about being millionaires just to get you to fall in love with them and tell you to trust them right this very second... promise you the world yet to never deliver.

I have been beat up so badly that it's put me literally to death and they have brought me back to life - I still have daily issues and some arise and makes me feel stupid - I can't help it and I try hard to not allow it to show.

I’m to this day very cautious about who I’m around and who I get involved with as a friend or even in a relationship with and it doesn't matter if it's a man and a lady for a friend.

I know what I’m looking for and I won't allow another person to ever hurt me again nor hurt my kids.

(I’m not gay or bisexual nor have do I the interest)

I have been:

• In controlling relationships

• Been killed and brought back to life

• Been paralyzed (no longer though, I can walk, run and do what others do.)

• I have had my ears crushed and deafened most of the way

• Been beat up on like a life sized punching bag

• Called every name in the book

• Been told I’m cheating on a man when I never did

• Been in so many verbal fights that I can't count them

• Been cheated on

• Been raped and molested

• Been lied to more then I care to count.....

And anything bad that you can think of that could ever happen to a female, well let’s just say I have more then likely had it happen to me or I have been through it.

The only main issues I have in a relationship is females, alcohol and drugs and issue with church as I’m told I have to go or else... everything else seems to be ok.

He can't seem to stay away from females or alcohol via in relationships as they seem to take over no matter what. Seems to even make the ugly ones look rather good......I tell you, I put my foot down on both....you want alcohol you don't want me and if you want someone other then me in your arms, well go get her cause I won't fight you, you can have her, just don't think you can come running back to me cause I will never take your ass back. Tried it, don't like it and won't do it again.

ALCOHOL, CIGARETTES & DRUGS

Don't want someone that smokes/drinks/drugs. (Not even a small amount)

Though I can deal with light smokers a bit out in public, but for medical reasons I try not to have them around. I use to smoke and have quit because it was too much on my kids. For medical reasons I can't have it around my kids and it also stinks to kiss a smoker so please, no smokers. Thanks.

Alcohol will and has always been a problem and I will not enter a relationship if you drink. I don't care if you are a "light drinker" or only drink once a year....I want nothing to do with anyone that drinks....PERIOD. NO EXCEPTIONS!

I promise I will not enter a relationship of any kind or friendship if you do any kind of Illegal drugs. I don't want it around me or my kids.

FEMALES

It isn't that I hate female, the fact is that I hate females flirting with my man. I will not tolerate this; you flirt, go for it, but don't expect me to be there with open arms. you want to have another female to be with part time, take her full time, and keep her cause your not welcome to come back to me ever.

You can have female friends, so don't get that wrong with the whole flirting thing. Some lady says to you knowing you have someone "hey sexy" that is flirting and needs to be stopped or she's a goner or if you don't stop it and enjoy that attention - you will be the goner.

ME IN GENERAL

This part is in a different area.

MY DREAMS

This part is in a different area.

I’m NOT broken,

Please don't try to fix me.

I’m more then happy to change and work into your life style and more then willing to adjust and compromise and I expect you to do the same as I will not be the only one to have to do it “your way”. I’m willing to work with you. I’m looking to get married and settle down, I have so much love and devotion to give to the right person. If you are a traveling person, I’m willing to travel but won't fly on a plane. I love to drive, I’m willing to go on a train but I don't like busses as there just isn't a lot of room and I have never been on a cruise ship before, have thought about it but no money to do that – however if I go, my kids get to go too.

(P.S.--- I will be adding more things as time goes on.)